Meet the Author

Marjie Alonso is a former executive director of small international nonprofits, where she promoted evidence-based education, developed professional standards, and acted as a “civilian-to-scientist” facilitator in all things animal behavior and training.

Recently retired, she now writes full-time, which means spending her days telling the stories she loves to tell. 

She is currently completing a memoir about taking her sons to meet their birth families in Paraguay, and her awakening to the complexities of the adoption triad of birth families, adoptive families, and the children relinquished and adopted without choice or agency. TL;DR it’s complicated! 

Marjie publishes a weekly newsletter on Substack, Pieces of String Too Small To Use, where she shares observations about the often nonsensical, random, funny, painful, maddening, and every-day events in life. 

She also has a more sporadic newsletter, Dear Goddamned Dog. This years-long conversation with many dogs approaches with humor the love and frustration dogs bring to our lives—even when we’re supposed to be experts in animal behavior.

Marjie Alonso

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Marjie’s current project is this memoir of a mother’s search for her sons’ birth families, and the reckoning with the covenant of adoption. Complete at 72,870 words.

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Marjie Alonso & Nellie

I Agreed To Foster A Nightmare Dog. I Had No Idea She’d Change My Life In Unbelievable Ways.

Alone after years of raising sons and dogs, she swore she’d never get another one. Then Nellie arrived: half-beagle, half-chaos, entirely unplanned. What started as ...
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Bruce Springsteen rocks into "Born in the USA," the title song from his latest album at the start of his, Friday, August 9, 1985 concert in Chicago. About 70,000 fans jammed into soldiers field to hear the "Boss." (AP Photo/Fred Jewell)

There’s a reason we turn to Bruce Springsteen in tough times

A resurfacing Bruce Springsteen ballad has become a soundtrack for grief, resilience, and weary hope. As “Tougher Than the Rest” finds new audiences online, its ...
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Lebanese Eggs Recipe: By Marjie Alonso

Lebanese Eggs Recipe

In her grandfather’s bustling diner, a five-year-old stands on stacked milk crates, learning to crack eggs over a sizzling pan of olive oil. What begins ...
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When It Feels Like Nowhere Is Safe

When It Feels Like Nowhere Is Safe

The author recounts harrowing experiences of sexual assault from childhood, reflecting on how societal and systemic failures, including dismissive authorities and cultural attitudes, allowed these ...
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I willingly, joyfully adopted my sons from Paraguay. I would never do it again

I willingly, joyfully adopted my sons from Paraguay. I would never do it again

A recent investigation revealed that many children from South Korea and other countries were trafficked into international adoption through coercion and fraud, exposing long-held rumors ...
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Dear Goddamned Dog

Letters to the animals who have humbled me, bested me, and delighted me, all while watching me claim expertise in animal training and behavior.
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The Value of No

The author, a former executive director, struggles with declining productivity as a full-time writer and compares it to the concept of "rate of reinforcement" in ...
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Pieces of String Too Small to Use

Observations about life. And other things found in the attic. By Marjie Alonso · Launched 2 years ago
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